If you’ve never been to therapy before, it’s normal to feel nervous. And if you’ve been to therapy before, it’s normal to wonder whether this experience will feel any different. One of the things I often hear from new clients is: “I’ve been thinking about reaching out for a long time.” Usually what follows is […]

Have you ever finally gotten a moment to slow down only to find yourself feeling restless, guilty, anxious, or uncomfortable? Maybe you’ve finished your to-do list and immediately started looking for the next thing. Maybe you sit down to relax and suddenly remember seventeen things you should be doing. Maybe you take a day off […]

Most people come into therapy wanting to stop people-pleasing. They want to stop saying yes when they mean no. Stop worrying about disappointing everyone. Stop feeling responsible for other people’s feelings. And those are worthwhile goals. But here’s what I often tell clients: The people pleaser isn’t actually the problem. The people pleaser is a […]

“How are you?” “Fine.” For a lot of us, that answer comes out automatically. Fine. Good. Okay. Busy. Tired. They’re often the first words we reach for when someone asks how we’re doing. The problem? Most of them aren’t actually emotions. They’re summaries. And sometimes they’re ways of avoiding a deeper answer—even from ourselves. The […]