Can you grieve a pregnancy that never happened or a child you haven’t met? Infertility grief is real, complicated, and often invisible. Let’s unpack why the loss of an imagined future deserves compassion, too.

Why safety, stability, and even happiness can feel strange after you’ve spent a long time surviving You made it through the thing. Maybe you left the relationship. The crisis ended. The baby finally sleeps for more than forty-five minutes at a time. The medical appointments slowed down. You got the job, moved into the house, […]

You know you’re allowed to say no—so why does it still feel so awful? When you’re used to managing everyone else’s feelings, setting the boundary is only half the battle. The real work is learning to tolerate what comes after.

Sometimes your mind hasn’t remembered the date yet. But your body seems to have gotten the memo. You wake up heavier than usual. Maybe you’re exhausted even though you slept. Your patience is thinner. Your chest feels tight. You’re restless, distracted, anxious, weepy, or just… off. Nothing is necessarily wrong. Nothing happened today. And still, something […]

You can be ready for the routine, grateful for the quiet, and still feel your heart ache when they walk away. Every year, sometime around August, I reach the point where I am ready. Ready for routine. Ready for predictable bedtimes. Ready for everyone to have somewhere to be that does not involve following me from […]

Everyone admires the strong one. The dependable friend. The calm parent. The coworker who somehow manages everything. The person everyone calls during a crisis because they always know what to do. From the outside, it looks like confidence. It looks like resilience. It looks like having it all together. But what most people don’t see is […]

If you’ve been curious about EMDR but keep wondering, “What if it’s weird?” or “What if I do it wrong?”—you’re not alone. One of the most common questions I hear is: “What does EMDR actually feel like?” And honestly? It’s a little different for everyone. But it’s almost never what people imagine before they start. […]

If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve tried everything, so why do I still feel this way?”—this is for you. Take a deep breath for a second. How many times have you heard advice like: Here’s the thing. None of those are bad suggestions. In fact, I recommend many of them to my own clients. But if […]

Spoiler alert: Guilt doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong. Have you ever finally worked up the courage to say no… …only to spend the next several hours wondering if you should apologize? Maybe you declined an invitation because you were exhausted. Maybe you didn’t answer a text immediately. Maybe you told someone you couldn’t […]

Sometimes it’s what didn’t happen. When most people hear the word trauma, they imagine something obvious. A car accident. Physical abuse. A natural disaster. One terrible moment that changed everything. Those experiences absolutely can be traumatic. But they’re not the only experiences that shape a nervous system. Sometimes trauma isn’t about what happened. Sometimes it’s about what never happened. […]